A Father’s Day Reflection

Those of you who have been following this blog for a while have heard bits and pieces of the story with my father.  My biological father passed away when I was a year old.  I grew up with my amazing grandfather as the male influence in my life and when I was eleven my mother remarried

It took time for me to become comfortable with the idea of seeing him as my dad, a problem that I recognize was solely on my end, but now I don’t see it any other way.

Over the last few years as I have finally started to process through the loss of my biological father I began seeking out more information about him.  To my disappointment, he was not the perfect man that I had set up in my mind.  He was flawed, as we all are.  He drank.  A lot.  He did things that, as a dad, I would scold other men for and he died because he wasn’t willing to change his lifestyle the way the doctors told him to.

As I was listening to the story of another guy who was trying to paint a picture of his late biological father as a good man (though he was not), I realized that I, in my own way, was doing the same thing.  Despite my upbringing with a grandfather who taught and trained me in my formative years and, later, a step-father who taught me what it meant to be a good dad through sacrifice and adoption (even though it was not a legal adoption), I felt like I had to identify with my deceased father to keep his memory alive, but I’ve learned that I don’t have to hold on to that past.  I can keep the family name and work to leave a redemptive legacy because of the influence of two other godly men in my life.

Just wanted to share.  Happy Father’s Day!

Published by Dan Scott

Blogger, IT pro, husband and father. Loves Jesus, music, and retro gaming. Trying to make the world better than I found it.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: